Jeremiah
32:27 -
"Behold, I am the LORD, the God of
all flesh; is anything too difficult for Me?"
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So, just why is pornography wrong? After all, speaking from the perspective of a male, and I'm sure most men will agree, the female body is one of the most beautiful things God ever created. To gaze on the form of a nude female body, is pleasurable and captivating. But then, that's exactly how God intended it to be! I'm sure that when God told Adam to "Be fruitful and multiply", it wasn't like telling him to go clean all the animal droppings from the garden of Eden. On the contrary, this was probably the easiest command that God ever gave to man. (I doubt that Eve put up much of a fuss either) To help explain why pornography should be avoided, whether you are married or single, let me give you a scenario or two. But first, know that God knows more about human nature, than you will ever know. If you want to have a great marriage, and an exciting sex life that will last for life, you need to have it more along the lines of how God intended it to be. When I was a child, (you know, back when Washington was president) my parents gave me an empty milk bottle and some clothes pins to play with. (Back then milk was delivered to your house by a milkman and it came in glass bottles) They said I would play for hours and hours being perfectly content, just dropping clothes pins in the bottle, shaking it etc . . . (every day) As my parents became more prosperous, they tended to spoil me by buying me every new and cool toy that came out on the market. Well, you can guess what happened, especially if you have children and do the same thing. I would play with the new toys for a week or a month (sometimes a day) then they would end up in the closet, and I'd end up bored! Needless to say, the milk bottle ended up there also. TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING! Gentlemen, place yourselves in this scenario for just a moment. Lets say you were born and raised in a country such as, Afghanistan, where the women wear "burka's". (covered from the top of their head to the soles of their feet) Now suppose you have finally reached the age of manhood and are ready to take a wife. Growing up in that type of society, it's possible that you may never have even seen a woman's face, with the exception of your mother, or sisters if you have any. So your parents arrange a marriage between you and the girl next door. (whom you have never really seen) On your wedding night, you see for the first time, a female totally unclothed! Face. arms, wrists, ankles and all the other parts we don't need to mention right now. Your wedding night would be the greatest night of your entire life. A night of exploring, a night of amazement and wonder. Also, a night of solving the great mystery . . . . For the first time in your life you can say, "so that's what they look like". And also, what a thrill and a privilege to look at her face, that only "you" are allowed to look at, because she is "your" wife! And guess what? It wouldn't matter if she looked like a Victoria's Secret model or not. You would still be thrilled and turned on, because you would never have had anything or anyone else to compare her too. (true happiness) Now if you add into the mix, a mall full of scantily dressed women, a few dozen TV commercials, a few adult magazines, and some porn videos off the internet, what have you got? You've got "MARRIAGE TROUBLE!!" You have just entered a world where no amount will totally satisfy, and there's always something better around the next corner. Therefore, you will never be truly content. WISDOM ALWAYS COMES FROM
THE LORD People in this day and age, especially in America, have been robbed of one of the greatest pleasures God has provided for us, innocence. Looking at members of the opposite sex on the internet and watching them copulate, is as easy as booting up your computer. Beautiful, well endowed women, and handsome well endowed men. All of them with no morals, no shame and no inhibitions. All ready to do (for your viewing pleasure) what your spouse is too shy or too religious or proper to do. Sounds entertaining and wonderful doesn't it? The problem is, once you start welcoming these videos and images into your mind and marriage, you have placed your spouse on a competition scale with them. A scale that he or she could "never" match up too. It's bad enough that in your mind, your spouse will always be compared to all the lovers you have had in the past, now, they will be compared with lovers you haven't even had in real life. It's sad that, when in real life, people don't apply "real life!" Watching pornography will give you a certain kind of knowledge, but it is not wise and there's no wisdom in it. WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW, WON'T HURT YOU! To be more accurate, "what you don't know, won't hurt your marriage". I'm not talking strictly about the present, I'm talking about the future also. If you are not married now, you will be some day. Here's the way it works. You're going about your life, you love your spouse, you love having intimate relations with your spouse, and the two of you are happy. Then, web surfing one day, you get the infamous "Pop Up". WOW! Right there, in your own home, right on your computer screen, is a "very" attractive person! And, their naked!! You don't want to look but, you're only human and all of a sudden, there's this strange sense of "false intimacy" that you are only supposed to feel when you are around someone you love that is dressed that way. (or not) One thing "will" lead to another (trust me) and you see images of men and women doing things that you and your spouse would "never" have dreamed up on your own, or even thought of. Now to further this new hunger, you might want your spouse to try some of the positions or acts you have seen performed. Where everything was fine before, now all of a sudden, something is lacking. You may talk your spouse into emulating some of the things you've seen, and it may be wonderful for a time, but unfortunately, you have now placed your spouse into competition with someone else. The worst part is, like I was, as a child with the toys, you will get bored easily after a time and want to move up the ladder to something even more bizarre. This is a never ending ladder that you will find yourself climbing. It will always lead to the need to move to something a little more exciting. More damaging than this to a marriage, is the person who becomes addicted to masturbation in relation to pornography. Some people reach a point where they choose masturbating to pornography over having sexual relations with their spouse. Not only does this put a terrible strain on a marriage, (whether the other spouse knows about it or not) it "is" adultery. In our culture, within a marriage, there is room for only two people. One is "you", the other is your "spouse". The minute you bring a third party into the marriage, whether they are real or fantasy, your marriage is doomed to start on a down hill slope. Concerning this subject, ignorance is bliss. Enjoy your spouse and keep everyone else "out!" Forsake all others, real or imaginary. Ecclesiastes 9:9 - Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun. If you are not married, watching pornography "will" set a standard in your mind that "no" future marriage partner could hope to live up to. In whatever form it enters, kick the intruder out of your marriage. There is only room for you and your spouse. No matter how pleasing the intruder looks, make no mistake, it is there to destroy, and nothing else. "Good, is not always beautiful" and "evil is not always ugly". Did you know that Satan was originally one of the most beautiful angels that God ever created? He is not the hideous creature with horns, tail and a pitch fork, as he has been portrayed in drawings. On the contrary, if you were to ever see him with your own eyes, you would probably find him to be one of the most beautiful creatures you have ever seen. Similarly, pornography looks beautiful and appealing on the surface, but once it enters your life, it slowly destroys! It will destroy your marriage, your morals and even your peace of mind. (Subtly at first) If you're married and have a craving to look at pornography, go look at your spouse instead. That's one of the reasons God put them there. If you are single, just stay away from it. Training your mind in such a way, will only attract the same type of people with no morals and as little character, as you have been watching. All you will accomplish is to doom any future relationships before they even start. MASTURBATION I have had people write to me and ask: "Is it a sin to masturbate, as long as I only think about my spouse?" Matthew 5:28 - but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.So, this is a good question. After all, if people did not lust for their spouses, the human race would have died out long ago. However, the first question that pops into my mind when I receive such a letter is: "If you have a perfectly good spouse sitting in the next room, why would you want too?" Unless it is something that you do together, or you are separated by a great distance because of a business trip or something similar, I wouldn't recommend it. However, what you and your spouse do in the privacy of your own home is strictly your own business. As far as masturbating to images on the internet or other forms of pornography, I'd have to say "absolutely not". If you are doing anything that you have to hide from your spouse, you are doing something wrong! ~Paul wrote: 1 Corinthians 7:4 - The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.According to God, your spouse has authority over your body. So, if you feel the need to masturbate to pornography, go and ask your spouse's permission and tell them why. If you are not prepared to do that, don't be too shocked when your marriage starts falling apart. The simple formula is: "If you have to hide it from your partner, it's wrong and could destroy your marriage". HOW TO FIGHT THE TEMPTATION OF PORNOGRAPHY Fighting temptation is never easy, but the most effective way is to replace it with something else. "God". Jesus himself was tempted. He was offered all the kingdoms of the earth, if he would worship Satan, which I'm sure included "all the harems also". Jesus replied to him saying: Matthew 4:10 - Then Jesus *said to him, "Go, Satan! For it is written, 'YOU SHALL WORSHIP THE LORD YOUR GOD, AND SERVE HIM ONLY.'"Another meaning of the word worship is to "Adore". Who do you worship and who do you adore? Is it God or is it the attractive people in the porn video. Who do you serve? Is it God or your own desires? The next time you are tempted, pick up your bible instead. Also, talk to God about it. He can fix anything! 2 Corinthians 10:5 - Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;The truth about pornography is: "It is a drug as addicting as heroin". Just like other drugs, it feels wonderful the first time you do it, then the thrill gradually wears off. In the end, if your life isn't in shambles, your marriage surely will be. God Bless You - (I have spoken) Dan Douglass ~ ~ GIVE ONLY WHAT YOU CAN COMFORTABLY AFFORD ~
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